As I’ve gotten to know the women at Nexus, I’ve learned one very important aspect of what a successful treatment center means. Educational lines, economics, politics, and social (un)acceptability are all washed away when the women of Nexus sit down together in a circle of recovery. Strength, hope, passion, and even regret fill the room as stories unfold and emotions resound. It does not matter if you are an upper-class teen mom from Preston Hollow or a woman from the streets of South Dallas with no life line, no social network. Everyone comes together with one purpose and cause – to live a sober and directed life.
Surely, there are feuds and suspicions that arise, which is natural when living in close quarters with anyone, familiar or strangers. Some do form cliques and are wary of others’ gossip; however, it is uplifting to see the support each woman gives the next. Over and over, I’ve gotten the same response to the question, What is one thing you would tell someone who is unsure of going through treatment?. The response being, You can’t win if you don’t fight. Recovery isn’t something that just happens. You have to make it happen.
The common thread between each of the women who walk in and out of the doors at Nexus is the desire to win and the desire to make a life for their children. Many obstacles lie in the path for success, but despite every knockdown, meltdown, or otherwise, each woman is ready to push harder and harder.
One topic of concern, which comes up in any conversation I have, is the issue of Child Protective Services and prolonged cases. I cannot divulge too much here, but I can say that the role of CPS in the lives of mothers trying to take the next step to a clean and successful life is often detrimental. CPS is a necessity for many situations, but the issue lies with the degree and scope of cases. As an anthropologist, it is second nature for me to delve into the culture and context of any given situation. I have seen that an overwhelming majority, if not all, of the women understand the need for CPS to see what they do at Nexus outside of the half-hour to hour-long meeting they have on occasion. Some caseworkers do not even come to Nexus to see their clients, rather make the client go to their office. It is not only important, but it is crucial for a caseworker to observe and understand the progress these women make not just on their own but also with their children.
Navigating the issues with CPS and other detriments of recovery is an ongoing process that requires in-depth observation and research, which is my next step. I believe Nexus stands as an example of what is right for successful treatment of women and mothers in recovery. However, there needs to be a blend between policy and action that allows for a more holistic approach to recovery.